Fixer Upper - the reality behind results
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So here’s something you may not know about me… I watch way too much HGTV, especially the show “Fixer Upper”, and anything about Chip and Joanna Gaines, the creators of the show. They transform houses that have been forgotten and need lots of work into beautifully updated and restored homes. A few weeks ago, I visited their Magnolia store in Waco, Texas. It felt a little like Disney - passing the time waiting to get in surrounded by food trucks, ice cream, a family playground, garden and bakery. Once inside, the colors and feel of the showroom transported me to that climactic moment at the end of each show, when they reveal the breathtaking results of the finished home – and ta da! It’s all here for the taking.
As I shopped I thought, isn’t this what we really want - the finished project? Sometimes when I’m watching the show I’ll fast-forward to the end, ignoring the edited cuts of planning, hard work and setbacks, then wish my house looked like theirs. As in right now – not after weeks of messy demolition, tearing down walls, and rebuilding. I’m all about the update. No thanks to the work that goes in to get there.
It’s inspiring to see results. When we look at other people’s lives and achievements, that’s typically all we see - shining examples of fulfilled dreams, successful careers, loving families, etc. We all want that. But, we don’t see the struggles, the sacrifices, and the hardships they went through. That’s the magic that drives a one hour television show: editing that makes everyone watching see just enough to think “I could do that!”. And you can achieve milestones and goals in your life - if you’re willing to put in the work. If we condensed a life renovation into 5 easy steps, it would go something like this:
Start by taking an honest look at where you are, and where you want to be.
Ask and answer tough questions like: what’s holding you back, not productive, or stagnant in your life.
Inventory the tools and resources needed, and formulate a plan.
Prepare a realistic timeline to complete each step, and anticipate obstacles along the way.
Be accountable from start to finish – no excuses or shortcuts.
On paper it’s simple enough, but anyone who’s ever tried a home project knows it’s never as easy as it seems. Life is even messier. It can be intimidating and tough to remake, update, or challenge ourselves. Chip and Joanna (I wish we were on a first name basis) coach their clients through their home transformation. A personal development coach will help you be successful with your life renovation, and uncover value in the deconstruction - discovering beauty and potential that’s hidden from sight. Even if you’re not in need of a big make-over, you may uncover a part of yourself that’s been buried behind layers of a demanding job, or raising kids, or weathered from seasons of life and needing some attention. Either way, I’m here to help if you’re ready for a change. After all - at some point in our lives we’re all fixer uppers.
For appointments or questions contact Sharise@Barnhillcounseling.com , or call 281.762.1825.